My “AHA!” Moment…. The change of a Mother/Daughter Relationship After Birth of Baby

My Mom and I have always been close. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve had our fair share of arguments over the years, mostly when I was a teenager, but none the less, I grew up knowing I had a Mom who loved me unconditionally. But what I didn’t know, what I truly didn’t comprehend, was the depth of her love for me. That is, I didn’t fully understand the love of a mother until just recently.

I remember the excitement of finding out I was pregnant. After 2 long years of trying, including a devastating miscarriage (Ill come back to this at a later date); was it even possible that I could be pregnant??! I stood there just staring at the pregnancy stick, my heart pounding with happiness and disbelief!! Not quite a dark line, but not too faint either! Was the line even there? Was it just wishful thinking? Maybe I was hallucinating? Should I take another test? But it was there! That pink line-even if it was the faintest of faint, was there!! I’m gonna be a mom!!! I knew at that very moment that there would never be another baby loved more than mine.

Thinking back, I recall the first time I heard my baby’s heart beat, it suddenly became real! The thumping of his mirrored my own! It was loud and fast! I felt as if our heart beats were one! This is MY baby, I thought! I am FINALLY gonna be a mommy!

I couldn’t wait for my first ultrasound. Who would it look like? Would it be a boy or girl? Did I even want to know it’s sex? All I DID know, was that wanted to see my baby! And then, there HE was! My SON! I was in love!

Seeing our baby boy in 3D for the 1st time!

Seeing our baby boy in 3D for the 1st time!!

As my belly grew bigger, so did my connection to him. I imagined how I would feel when I held him in my arms the very first time. But then, a sense of panic set in…I had to first push this baby out of me! And no thanks to my sister in law, who showed me a Youtube video of a live birth, I was mortified, to say the least!

Seriously though, nothing was more amazing then the day my baby was born! I held him in my arms and knew that I could never love anything more. The love was so deep it shook my inner core. I was totally consumed and overwhelmed by the emotions I felt for him.

Kissing our baby boy at the hospital - 1 day old

Kissing our baby boy at the hospital – 1 day old

And at that very second I felt this connection to my mother that I had never felt before. I finally got it! My “AHA” moment…I realized that my mother had that same love, the different love that only a  mother has for their offspring. As a child you love your parents, but as a parent the love of your child is indescribable, the most intense love one human can feel. I get it now mom, I completely understand.. On October 21, 2010, the day my son was born, my life forever changed in more ways than one.

Happy to be home! Ryan 1 week old

Happy to be home! Ryan 1 week old

 

My mom and I on a recent mother daughter trip to Paris!

Eating on top of the Eiffel Tower

Eating on top of the Eiffel Tower

mom and me in paris mom and i eating falafal mother doaughter trip to paris

 

 

 

 

Written by Lisa Youngelson, Owner of Zippyz 

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Like most new moms, Lisa had been up night after night changing her newborn son’s diaper. She was so exhausted she could barely function, let alone match up the tiny snaps on her baby’s pajamas.

Frustrated by endless mis-snapping and re-snapping, Lisa found zippered pajamas, and thought her problems had been solved. That night when she unzipped her son’s pajamas, he started to cry from the shock of cold air. Although less time consuming, Lisa hated that she had to expose her baby’s entire body with the zipper. She felt her baby’s comfort should come first and yearned for the perfect footed pajama, which was both soft and cozy for her baby and hassle-free for mommy.

One night while feeding her son she thought of “Zippyz.” Zippyz are patented footed baby pajamas for easy and fast diaper changes with 3 snaps on the chest and a zipper from foot to belly. Finally, a solution suitable for baby AND mommy! Plus Zippyz are a unique baby shower gift! Along with her best friend and business partner Erica, Lisa decided make the diaper changing world a better place for all new parents!

For more information, visit www.shopzippyz.com.

Interested in writing a guest blog for Zippyz? Send your topic idea to: media@shopzippyz.com.

All data and information provided on this site is for informational purposes only. Zippyz makes no representations as to accuracy, completeness, current-ness, suitability, or validity of any information on this site and will not be liable for any errors, omissions, or delays in this information, or any losses, injuries, or damages arising from its display or use. All information is provided on an as-is basis.

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5 Tips to Bond with Your Newborn

tips for bonding with newbornThe first few months of your baby’s life can set the tone for your entire relationship. By developing a loving, connected bond with your newborn, you can create the groundwork for a positive relationship. You want your little one to feel secure and less afraid of his new environment. Take every opportunity you can to bond so you can nurture that connection.

1. Use lots of touch.

After birth, your baby’s skin is very sensitive. Your little one just came from an environment where he was constantly in contact with your body. Touching you gives him a secure feeling. Hospitals everywhere encourage mothers to hold their newborns to their chests in the moments after birth to help calm the baby. Hold your newborn close often. If you’re relaxing on the sofa or bed, bring your baby with you, rather than alone in the bassinet.

2. Make your baby smile.

Any time you can draw a laugh, smile, or squeak out of your baby, you are building a positive memory in his mind of his parent. Create enough of these positive moments and he will begin to light up at your appearance. Reinforce this condition whenever you can. Use gentle tickling, silliness, and laughing of your own to have positive moments.

3. Bond during feeding.

Infants require a lot of feeding; initially every one to three hours. During these moments, look into your infant’s face while gently stimulating his skin. Conventional wisdom says newborns are more aware during their feedings, so this is a perfect time to develop that connection. Breastfeeding is an especially intense bonding experience; most mothers miss it once they stop.

4. Talk and sing whenever you can.

You might silly talking with someone who can’t respond, but communicating with your baby helps him understand that you are paying attention to him. Narrate your actions, behaviors, and feelings, even what you’re doing is mundane and routine. At first your conversation will be one-sided, but you’re helping your baby understand that communication with his parents is easy, harmless, and comforting.

5. Calm down.

Just like adults, babies intuitively understand the emotions of the people around them. They feel what you’re feeling. If you are tense, anxious, and frustrated, your behavior will pass that on to your child. On the same token, you relax, smile, sing a gentle song, and speak positively, your baby will share those feelings. Relationships are built on positive emotions, so stay peppy!

footed pajamas for fast diaper changesWritten by Lisa Youngelson, Owner of Zippyz

Like most new moms, Lisa had been up night after night changing her newborn son’s diaper. She was so exhausted she could barely function, let alone match up the tiny snaps on her baby’s pajamas.

Frustrated by endless mis-snapping and re-snapping, Lisa found zippered pajamas, and thought her problems had been solved. That night when she unzipped her son’s pajamas, he started to cry from the shock of cold air. Although less time consuming, Lisa hated that she had to expose her baby’s entire body with the zipper. She felt her baby’s comfort should come first and yearned for the perfect footed pajama, which was both soft and cozy for her baby and hassle-free for mommy.

One night while feeding her son she thought of “Zippyz.” Zippyz are patented footed baby pajamas for easy and fast diaper changes with 3 snaps on the chest and a zipper from foot to belly. Finally, a solution suitable for baby AND mommy! Plus Zippyz are a unique baby shower gift! Along with her best friend and business partner Erica, Lisa decided make the diaper changing world a better place for all new parents!

For more information, visit www.shopzippyz.com.

Interested in writing a guest blog for Zippyz? Send your topic idea to: media@shopzippyz.com.

All data and information provided on this site is for informational purposes only. Zippyz makes no representations as to accuracy, completeness, current-ness, suitability, or validity of any information on this site and will not be liable for any errors, omissions, or delays in this information, or any losses, injuries, or damages arising from its display or use. All information is provided on an as-is basis.

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